When I witness a negative scene unfolding before me, what I’m seeing is a direct reflection of my attitude. It doesn’t matter if I’m a primary participant in the scene or merely a bystander — whatever I experience as life, is simply a projection of how I think and feel. Essentially, the external is a manifestation of the internal.
So whenever something bad happens, it demonstrates that I’m in a state susceptible to negativity. For example: if I ask my friend to go on a walk, and along the way she says something upsetting, I must’ve been in a sensitive mood. Even if I simply see something bad along the way, it means I must’ve been prone to pessimism — it shows that my attention is attracted to negativity.
Therefore, the root cause of any unpleasant experience, is a lack of mental discipline — it’s a failure to properly direct my attention. That’s convenient because it serves as a reminder to watch my thoughts and adjust my attitude. So I can’t blame anyone or anything for a disagreeable circumstance, I can only see it as an opportunity to improve my focus.
What this perspective provides is empowerment. It demolishes any sense of victimhood — I’m no longer a poor little leaf trapped in the wayward winds of the world. Instead, I am the wind, I am that which directs the world I experience. My control is so complete in fact, that my whims form before me. Consequently, my greatest responsibility is to manage the thoughts I invite into my mind.