Do the despondent get what they want in life? No. People typically have to get to a better place in their lives before things start going their way. You don’t just go from 40mph in reverse to going 120mph in a forward trajectory — otherwise you’d grind the gears and slam into your seat with your neck all twisted. You gotta slow down, stop going backwards and get to neutral, then look forward, put it in drive and proceed at a reasonable rate.
But how can you get to a better place in your life if you’re feeling dejected? Well, stop going in reverse for one. Stop criticizing. Stop doing what losers do. Do negative people win? No. Jesus even had a parable about this:
A guy gave his underlings some money to manage while he was away. One underling received 5 talents, another received 2, and the last received 1. When the guy returned, he checked in with the underlings.
The first and second underlings doubled the money they received whereas the third underling simply hid the money away and gave it back. To the first and second underlings, the guy gave even more because of the good job they did with what they were given. But the guy took the 1 talent from the third underling and gave it to the underling that already had 10.
Then the guy said: He that already has, more will be given — but from him that lacks, what he has will be taken! In fact, throw that loser out!
What this means to me, is that no matter what you receive, you have to invest it in the world and get some sort of return from it. If at the end of your life you simply hand yourself back after hiding the entire time — you’re gonna be in deep doo-doo. Even the underling with 2 talents did what he could with what he had, making the guy proud.
By the way, the guy already suspected what the outcome was going to be, that’s why he handed out different amounts at the start. And that 1-talent underling was so negative that he even insulted the guy as he’s handing him back his money, calling him a hard-ass. The 1-talent underling then received the poor treatment he expected and was tossed out.
In other words: if you expect a hard life, you’ll get it. Wishes do come true, so be careful what you wish for. Whereas those that trust in life, completely investing themselves in it, will receive the abundance they believe in.
And if you do find yourself despondent, the trick is to stop focusing on all that you don’t have, creating a mindset of negativity and lack. To go from loser to winner, you’ve got to appreciate what you have right now. And from that appreciative mindset, you’ll be in a position to welcome-in the good things of life instead of rejecting them whenever they’re presented to you.
If you keep running away scared every time life tries to give you something, how can you ever get anything!? The first rule of “Life Club” is to trust life. If life was truly a hard-ass you wouldn’t be gettin’ away with that everything-sucks attitude you’ve been sportin’. In actuality, life keeps on giving — you just keep on rejecting.
So now what are you gonna do? Step 1: Trust in the goodness of life. Step 2: Appreciate all the awesome things you’ve already received. Step 3: Graciously and gratefully welcome all the stuff life continues giving you.