Okay, this is the one. This is the day upon which I reveal the ULTIMATE method of destroying fear where it stands. Essentially what you’ll need to develop is a belief system so comforting, that fear doesn’t even make sense anymore. With the right set of beliefs, you won’t be afraid of anything — not death, not disease, not disaster, not relationship woes, not the unknown, not the future — nothing. You’re more than welcome to devise your own set of comforting beliefs, but as an example I’ll share with you what I came up with.
My person belief system is of course Simulation Theory, the idea that there is no physical reality, merely flickering pixels programmed to captivate players as they navigate the adventure of a lifetime. This is a challenging game in which an eternal being gets to forget himself for a short while and see if he can handle existence as an embodied being. If a character dies in this world, so what, respawn is just a click away. And like any game, the only goal is fun — there are no other objectives.
I’ve driven this belief system home to the point where it’s my default. That took some time, but it paid off. Now when unpleasant questions arise, I can easily answer them away with Simulation Theory. For example:
Me: What should I be doing with my life?
Also me: Enjoying yourself.
Me: What happens when I die?
Also me: Like any game, just play it again.
Me: I’m getting a little worried about [fill-in-the-blank].
Also me: Nah, it’s like one of those heavily scripted games, it’ll all work out.
Me: I’m not sure how good I’m doing at this life stuff.
Also me: Don’t worry, the AI has been helping you along the entire time — you’re fine. Think of it like an amusement park ride, just sit back, relax, and enjoy the show.
Me: I’m feeling a bit unloved.
Also me: WHAT!? This whole world is a gift lovingly created for your entertainment! Your existence is an expression of love itself! And the only expectation you need fulfill is to enjoy this gift so graciously given.
I’m not saying it’s for everyone, but it fits with my personality and I find it comforting. Since adopting this belief system, I’ve been able to short-circuit fear whenever it manifests. I no longer experience stress or worry. I still experience frustration from time to time because I want the game to proceed in a certain way — I guess I get impatient and want everything right now. I can still get a little sad if I focus on sentimental stuff — but that’s not really my thing, although I know some people seem to enjoy crying.
I can get bored sometimes, but I really try to keep myself busy with something. As a motivator, I maintain the belief that boredom signals the game to introduce external obstacles. In other words, if I don’t entertain myself, the game is going to step in and make sure my time is occupied with something “interesting”. And the game doesn’t care what it is, as long I’m engaged — so if I want something I prefer, I better pick it myself
If you want to eliminate fear, you need a belief system in which fear becomes meaningless. From experience, I can tell you it works. My previous beliefs put fear front-and-center — but once I replaced them, everything got better. In my previous belief system, I was my body, just a tiny inconsequential animal crawling on a big rock hurtling around a fireball, a hapless victim of random chance. That was intense — now I’m relaxed.
So your goal for today is to develop a comforting belief system. The easiest thing to do is adopt a pre-existing set of beliefs and customize per your preferences. And the good news is that fear will help you by presenting challenges and objections, causing you to fill-in the blanks and fine-tune as necessary. Aren’t you due for a change anyway? Well here is an opportunity to turn your whole life around and change the world before your very eyes.
This is nothing short of magic — so let me be the first to welcome you into this wizarding world — a realm whose presence I bet you could always sense. But for whatever reason, you’ve been denying yourself entrance. Well deny no more! Step right in! If you have any questions, please feel free to let me know, perhaps I can answer them. Do have a great time — and welcome home!