What’s happening depends on the context it’s placed within. Always and without exception, context matters. Part of my negativity-free diet, is placing EVERYTHING within a positive context. Did something bad just happen? The answer is always: NO. Something GOOD just happened, and here’s why….
Hey Rich, the money in your savings account is getting substantially smaller, that’s bad right? NO! It’s GOOD because it means something literally life-changing is about to happen!! How amazing is that gonna be!? I’m not sure what form the change will take, but a new adventure is coming my way! Cool!
Hey Rich, a headache is certainly bad, right? NO! It’s GOOD because it lets me know that I must’ve let my thoughts drift into negativity. The pain serves as an early-warning indicator telling me to improve my mental focus. The “pain” also provides an opportunity to re-contextualize the sensation into a mild pressure that no longer captivates my attention.
Hey Rich, a hard-to-reach lightbulb just burnt-out, that’s annoying right? NO! It’s GOOD because I have an opportunity to use my ladder and feel like a real handyman. “Everyone, please remain calm. Your lighting will be restored momentarily.” Okay, how about when your mini-helicopter broke, that’s gotta be bad? NO! It’s GOOD because I get to fly my drone more.
Bad things aren’t bad, they’re just different. And different isn’t bad, it’s just my character experiencing a new scene. Life is a movie made for my amusement. One scene follows the next and I appreciate the ever-changing narrative that keeps me enthralled. Plus, my focus shapes the story-arc: if I focus on dark stuff, dreariness increases — whereas if I focus on lighthearted stuff, delight increases.